Battling Mom Guilt

Battling Mom Guilt
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We all wanna be good Mamas, in fact, we want to be the absolute best! And we think we’re doing okay and then BAM! MOM GUILT! I had one of those moments this weekend.

Clint had gone to the gym and Lucas and I were home alone. Lucas was in the Living Room wreaking havoc and I was folding laundry in the Laundry Room. I walked through with some clothes to put up and he whined and wanted me to pick him up. That made me wonder what time it was and how much longer it would be before he was ready for bed, so I could get some stuff done around the house. I feel mom guilt just admitting that to y’all.

I went and hung the clothes up and the guilt hit me. What is so important in this house that I can’t sit down and play with him for a little while? Then, I had another thought. Here I am wanting to be a SAHM and homeschooling him once he reaches school age, but I barely spend any time teaching him new things now. Clint or Clint’s parents generally teach Lucas new things. I’m usually running around the house doing dishes, cleaning, or cooking dinner while Clint is playing with Lucas. Isn’t that terrible?

I have to change this. Lucas isn’t going to remember whether or not the house was clean and we had a home-cooked meal every night, he’s going to remember the time that Mama spent with him. I can’t wait until I’m able to stay home, if it ever happens, to spend time with my child.

A Child Needs a Mother quote

Okay, sorry, the pity party has <ended>. I have been getting up an hour earlier in the mornings to work on blog stuff, which I plan to continue doing. Starting this week, I’m getting back into meal planning and freezer cooking (post on both of those in the works) so dinner will not be so hectic and take so long. Once we eat dinner and clean up, I am going to spend time with Lucas until he goes to bed. That will leave me with an hour or two to try and get household things done. If things don’t get done, then they don’t get done. My relationship with my child is more important than laundry anyhow.

Do you ever feel like you spend enough time with your child(ren)? What are things you specifically do to ensure you spend enough quality time with them? Or, let’s make a commitment to our families and hold each other accountable. Are you in?

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Yes, I Cloth Diaper (Part 3)

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Happy Monday! I hope you had a wonderful weekend!

So here it is, the final post to wrap up Yes, I Cloth Diaper. If you missed any, you can see them all here.

Around the time Lucas was 6 months old, I bought more prefolds. They are actually the same size as the Orange edged ones, just wider, which makes them easier to wrap around him. We use them under a [amazon-product text=”Flip Diaper Cover” type=”text”]B00469ZSTO[/amazon-product] most of the time.

alldiapers

I also bought some more pockets to give them a try. I got a really good deal on some used Alva pockets from a local Mama and I recently bought some used Fuzzibunz from another mama. The microfiber inserts that come with pocket diapers just stink, in my opinion. I can’t stand smelling them, so we’ve been stuffing the pockets with the Orange edge prefolds, which fit perfectly. This works really well for us, and is our preferred diaper choice overall.

And here’s the big one… our nighttime solution. When Lucas was younger, just a prefold and cover were fine. Then he started sleeping longer and wetting more and that just would not hold all of it in. We experimented with a few of the diapers we had and then we broke down and bought some nighttime disposables. Those worked most nights, although, sometimes he still leaked out of those. I hated using them though and the smell of them seriously grosses this Mama out! So I started looking around for a cloth nighttime solution. I know wool is very popular, but I was intimidated by it because I had never researched it at all and just assumed it was difficult.

But finally, I looked into wool and it really isn’t all that hard. You just use a diaper of your choice, we like pockets, under a wool cover. If the inside diaper leaks, the wool cover will absorb 30% of its weight in liquid before it starts to leak. Wool is naturally antibacterial so it doesn’t need to be washed after every use, either. And don’t worry if it smells when you first take it off of the babe. Once it dries up, the smell just evaporates.

wool

When you first get a wool diaper, you prep it by washing it in the bathroom sink with wool wash and then you lanolize it with lanolin, or nipple cream as we call it in our house, in the sink and then let it dry for 24 hours and then you just do the same thing once a month or when the diaper starts to hold a smell or leak. Wool can be very expensive, to the tune of $50 or more a cover, but being my thrifty self, I bought two that were upcycled out of old wool sweaters and made by mamas for around $5 each. The maroon one is a little more fuzzy and thicker than the blue, so it works better at night for us. We are loving wool.

Ok, ok – let’s talk about the dirty word – POOP. What do we do with it? Well, we flush it down the toilet where it belongs, of course.

pail

We have two separate spots for dirty diapers in Lucas’ room. One is a pail that is a regular kitchen sized trash can with a trash bag in it. Then we put a [amazon-product text=”Planet Wise Diaper Pail Liner (Hedgehog)” type=”text”]B00A3V33TQ[/amazon-product]in it. The trash bag is to try and keep smells from soaking into the plastic trash can. This pail is for dirty prefolds, which is all cotton. We also keep a [amazon-product text=”Planet Wise Wet Bag” type=”text”]B00A3URYFG[/amazon-product], which is only for covers and the pocket shells.

I separate them because I wash them separately and I don’t want to have to sort through dirty diapers on laundry day.

When Lucas has a dirty diaper, we dump any solids in the toilet and spray it with a diaper sprayer attached to the toilet and the cover/pocket shell and prefold in their respective wetbag. That may sound nasty to you, but consider this: any time Lucas poops in a disposable, it goes everywhere! To compare, he has only had 1 or 2 blowouts wearing cloth.

[amazon-product alink=”0000FF” bordercolor=”000000″ height=”240″]B0041287A8[/amazon-product]

We try to wash laundry every other day or the diapers do start to stink. The prefolds get bleached with a second rinse and dried regular and all of the covers and pocket shells just get laundry soap and a dry on medium heat.

pockets

I love cloth diapers. I know that we are saving so much money and I just generally like them. They feel so much better against my skin than a disposable does, so I’m sure they feel much better on Lucas’ sensitive little bottom.

Would you consider using cloth diapers? Or if someone else would have done the research for you, would you have considered it? What is holding you back?

Yes, I Cloth Diaper (Part 2:Newborn to 6 Months)

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This is the second post of the Yes, I Cloth Diaper series. The entire series can be found here.

Things are a little tense around here. I guess that’s the right word. Clint works for a subcontractor of the Federal Government, so he’s home right now. Luckily, his company will be advancing them one week of vacation, which will cover this week. We are praying that it won’t last long. Suprisingly though, since I normally get extremely stressed out about all things money, I am not stressed out about this. Yes, I’m frustrated–but, I know that He will provide.

So now you know why I chose cloth diapers—because I’m cheap. Well that’s the main reason anyway. Besides—they can be really cute. But there’s so much to know about cloth diapers. Today, I’m going to share with you about some of the different types that we’ve used and what’s worked for us—but only during the first 6 months of Lucas’ life–for today, or we’d be here all day.

First, there are so many different kinds of cloth diapers. I know when someone says cloth diapers, most people think of the cheap Gerber prefolds people generally use as burp cloths and the pants like these. Well, you think of that or poop (that post is in the works too). But there are so many other options.

Gerber Plastic Pants

Cloth diapers come in many many different styles. There are pockets, prefolds and covers, flats and covers, fitteds and covers, AIO (All In Ones), AI2 (All In Twos), and Wool. My plan was to mainly stick with prefolds, flats, and covers since that is the cheapest most economical choice in cloth diapering.

We were lucky enough to be given about 20 Kissas Size 0 fitted diapers right before Lucas was born though. They were so soft and squishy. It was a good thing too, because he was so small that I’m not sure anything else would have fit him. For the first couple of days, we didn’t even need to put a cover over them. He was so small that he wore the Kissas with a cover for around 3 months. The cover we used was Thirsties Size 1, which a lot of people recommend for newborns.

Kissas & Thirsties

Then we started using flats and prefolds with a Thristies cover over them. We had 24 flats and 24 prefolds. I had some pockets that were free with purchases too, so we started trying those out as well. The prefolds and flats did the job, but the pockets always seemed to repel. Repel, meaning when he peed, the liquid would sit on top of the fabric and roll out of the leg holes instead of absorbing it. The flats were by far my favorite. They were really trim and dried super quick on laundry day because they are only one layer of fabric. I liked experimenting with the different “folds” for putting them on Lucas, too. Our favorites were the Origami and the Kite Folds. Once Lucas was about 6 months old, the flats just did not hold enough pee though.

Flats Folded

So, we decided to start only using prefolds and covers. At this point, we had used 2 different sizes of prefolds so far, and had 24 of each size.  The Purple edge are an Infant size, the Orange edge are more like a medium for the 15-30 weight range. Lucas is only 20 lbs right now though and they will not go around him. Once he grew out of the Thristies Size 1 covers, we mainly used Flips. Flips with a velcro closure are my absolute favorite cover.

Prefold Diapers

When Lucas was around 4-6 months old, we started using disposables at night though. He started to leak out of the prefolds and covers we would put him in so it saved us from having to completely wake him up to change his diaper and clothes (and sheets, in some cases) when he would wake up to nurse. We have since found a solution though, which I’ll tell you about in Part 3. This covers the first six months though. If you are confused or overwhelmed by choices, your best bet would be to just get one kind and see how those go. Of course, I would recommend buying used. One, because you’re saving money, but two, because if you don’t like them—you could probably resell them for the same price you paid.

I love cloth diapers, don’t you? Clint says that I am addicted to buying them. Would you ever consider using them or have you?

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Yes, I Cloth Diaper (Part I)

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This is the first post in the Yes, I Cloth Diaper series. They can all be found here.

Being the budget-aholic that I am, as soon as I found out we were pregnant, I figured up a monthly amount to see exactly how much our addition to the family was going to be. I can’t remember the exact number I came up with, but it was quite a bit. Diapers and formula are really expensive!

So I started brainstorming some ways to save a little dough once Lucas was here: Breastfeeding and Cloth Diapering. I had already thought about breastfeeding but wasn’t really sure about it, since I’d never really been around anyone who had nursed their child. My OB had also made a comment that I would “probably have a hard time nursing a baby”, but that’s a completely different post. So I started seriously considering it and researched, researched, researched. Clint was pretty supportive of that idea, but when I mentioned cloth diapers he said “Do what?!” Lucas Cloth Diaper 5 Months

From then on, I spent A LOT of time researching cloth diapers. All the designs were SO cute. Who doesn’t want owls and monsters and chevron print on their little boy’s butt? I mean, really? Here’s what I found:

According to BabyGearLab.com, here is the average disposable diaper usage until potty training. Diaper Usage Chart

Of course, every child is different, but this is a good estimate. I personally think Lucas would go through more than that. I know, right now, at almost 12 months, he still goes through about 7 or 8 diapers a day. Also, the 24 month and 36 month columns should probably say Stage 5 and Stage 6 diapers. Based on my local Walmart’s prices, here is what 3 different brands of diapers will cost you, per child.

  • Walmart Parent’s Choice – $995
  • Pampers – $1,400
  • Seventh Generation – $1,875

In comparison, you could cloth diaper a child for around $300. That’s 1/3 the cost of using the off brand disposable diapers! ONE THIRD!

I’ve bought new diapers and I’ve bought used diapers and I’ve resold some of the ones that didn’t work for us. With all of that, I have only spent $465.02. That’s only about half of what I would spend for one kid in disposables, BUT, I can reuse every single diaper I have bought on every other child we have. With each sibling we give Lucas, I estimate we may spend another $100 apiece. I would say that’s worth it!

Lucas Cloth Diaper 9 Months

Oh and by the way, once I explained all of this to Clint, he was sold on cloth diapers, too… smart man.

Do you have any questions about cloth diapering? Leave a comment, and I’ll try to clear up any questions/concerns! So keep an eye out for Yes, I Cloth Diaper (Part 2)!