Howdy strangers! I know it’s been a little while, but life is just really getting in the way of me blogging lately. I even have a few projects and ideas for blog posts and haven’t had a moment to sit down and put them to paper, well keyboard. Anyhow, I think you’ll really enjoy what I have for you today.
I’ve told you before I think being a Mama is tough and then a few months back, I wrote about The Mother of All Meltdowns and even gave away two copies of the book. By the way, it’s only $0.99 now through Mother’s Day on [amazon-product text=”Amazon” type=”text”]0989955311[/amazon-product]. Well, the ladies who put together The Mother of All Meltdowns just launched a new website called No Mother is Perfect and asked me to host a Blog Tour Stop. The website is a community for the perfectly imperfect mother! A place where you can let your guard down and talk about the meltdowns, struggles, and less rosy aspects of being a mom…
To celebrate they’re having an amazing giveaway, No Mother is Perfect, But Every Mother is Unique Mother’s Day Giveaway. Y’all are going to want to check this out– the sponsors include The Oaks at Ojai, Cariloha, Wicker Central, Metropolis Coffee Company, Wind & Fire Jewelry, Chuao Chocolatier, Global Rose, & Anew Riesling and you could win one of three fabulous prize packages including a three night stay for two at a destination spa! Click the image below to enter!
As part of the blog tour, I got to do a little Q&A with one of the contributors! I follow Stephanie’s blog Crayon Marks and Tiger Stripes and love the fact that she uses it as a ministry. Her particular meltdown (yes, it involved poop) has really stayed with me and I’ll think you’ll see why I chose her.. 😉
Q: So your meltdown story with your toddler yelling “Mommy is pooping” in the restroom of a crowded gas station is definitely the most memorable meltdown from The Mother of All Meltdowns, Stephanie. I actually replay it in my head every time I use a public restroom (TMI?). Have you had any similar instances since then?
A: Hahaha!! I replay it in my head too, which is why my little boy now visits the restroom with his daddy on road trips. This momma vowed to never experience that situation again. But that doesn’t mean my son and poop haven’t haunted me in other ways. In fact, just last week, I was horrified by the contents of his pull-up, and the location of said contents. He has mastered peeing in the potty, but pooping is a different story. Can you see where this is going? He is in underwear all day and in a pull up at naptime and bedtime. He has decided he would rather save his poop for that pull-up rather than the potty. At this point, I’m convinced he will be 25 and in adult diapers. I hate potty training…
Anyway, my husband and I were working out to P90X3 while my son was still asleep (or so I thought). Our son has a tot clock that is blue when he has to stay in his room and yellow when he can get up and play. It’s set to turn yellow at 8am. At 8:15, I began to wonder why he hadn’t come out of his room yet. Around 8:20, he opened the door and out he came with a wad of wipeys and a ginormous poop ball sitting on top of it. “I cleaned up the poop. It’s okay. I cleaned up the poop.” Much to my horror, the contents of his pull up had overflowed out of his pull up into his pajamas and onto the floor and he had attempted to clean it up (A+ for effort, I guess!). It was a disaster.
Moral of this story- If you think blow outs are only a part of infants and young babies, think again. It will happen to your toddler too.
Since then, this nightmare has also happened in his bed when he tried to clean it up and smeared poop all over his sheets (Ugh!) and just a couple days ago, he tried to empty the contents of his pull up into the toilet (while we were asleep!). He decided he needed to turn the light on so he climbed up the onto the counter and dragged his little poop covered bottom across the counter to get to the light switch…poop everywhere. Did I mention I hate potty training?
One day when he is a teenager, I am so going to use these poop stories as blackmail…. 😉
Q: I know that you suffered from Postpartum Depression and a negative body image after the birth of your son. What do you think were some of the contributing factors to that?
A: I was already 20 lbs overweight when I got pregnant because I was in nursing school and nursing school equals no life what so ever. My husband and I decided that after graduation would be a great time to start our family and after 6 months of trying, we got pregnant. My pregnancy was rough and I felt sick all the time. When I was nearing the end of my pregnancy, I was diagnosed with pre-eclampsia. I had already gained 30 lbs, but in two weeks, I gained 20 lbs more of just water weight! I was miserable, uncomfortable and hated the way I looked in the mirror.
I wanted sooooo badly to delivery naturally, but I had to have an emergency cesarean. Then I was so drugged afterwards that I don’t remember the first 12 hours of my son’s life. On top of that, I wanted to breastfeed, but it was the most difficult thing to get my body to make enough milk. My body had become a huge disappointment to me. Everything that God designed it to do as a woman was failing. I began to believe that I was a failure. In that moment, I became vulnerable to Satan’s attacks. I really believe that Satan strikes in those very vulnerable moments. I never thought I would be one to be hit with postpartum depression and I refused to acknowledge it as that for almost a year.
Q: What was finally your “aha!” moment that pulled you out of that haze?
A: After about 8 months of some serious self-loathing, my husband said something to me that began to lift the haze, “I love your body. It is what brought our son into this world. You mean the world to me and you mean the world to our son.” In that conversation, I could hear God gently tugging on me and saying “If your husband loves you this much, how much more do I, your Father in Heaven, love you?” It was then that I began to see how I much I was letting Satan deceive me and how I needed to start fighting this spiritual battle, and stop letting him defeat me! It was then that I surrendered to God and asked Him to help me escape this prison of self doubt and self hate.
Q: We all know that No Mother is Perfect and probably tend to feel this way about our bodies often. What advice would you give other Moms that are suffering from negative body image?
A: Don’t play the comparison game!! You never win when you begin to compare yourself to others. We have to remember: There is only One who is Perfect and His name is Jesus. No mother is perfect!!! I’m an imperfect mom and that’s okay. I’m an imperfect wife and that’s okay. I’m an imperfect person and that’s okay. There is a God that loves me regardless of my flaws. To those moms out there suffering from this, remember that you are an imperfect person loved by a Perfect God!!!
Q: Is there a scripture that especially helped you through that phase in your life? (or maybe one you wished you would have used)
A: I’m glad you asked this question because that is actually the advice I would give to moms suffering from negative body image! Seek scriptures!!! Negative body image is a never ending spiritual battle. Even though I can stand here and say that I have overcome it, I still must have things in place to keep me from going back to that dark place. That is when I turn to scripture.
In Matthew 4:1-11, Jesus is tempted by Satan. He responds to Satan’s attacks with scripture. We need to do the same. Here are a few of my favorites:
– Proverbs 31:25- She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.
– 1 Peter 3:4- Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
– John 16:33: I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.
– Proverbs 31:30- Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
– 1 Corinthians 6:19-20: Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own. You were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.
– 1 Samuel 16:7- People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.
Fighting back with scripture is the best battle plan. When negative thoughts fill your mind, strike them back with scripture, prayer and positive affirmations! Remember that you are God’s masterpiece!
Bio: Stephanie is wife to Dr. Smartypants and mom to a little red headed boy. She’s a Christ follower, a do it yourselfer, a list lover and coffeeaholic. She lives by the slogan: I am mommy! Hear me roar! She writes to encourage women in their journeys as mothers and wives. When she’s not tending to her little ginger’s every need, you can find her at Crayon Marks and Tiger Stripes (www.crayonmarksandtigerstripes.com) where she blogs about healthy living, maintaining a positive body image, faith, and the ups and downs of parenting. You can also find her on twitter (www.twitter.com/cmtsblog) and on facebook (www.facebook.com/crayonmarksandtigerstripes.com).
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